IVF can feel like a nonstop rollercoaster. One day you’re full of hope, the next you’re holding back tears.
Here’s why it can feel so heavy:
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Worrying about the unknown
Each stage—stims, retrieval, transfer, and the dreaded waiting—brings its own brand of uncertainty. -
Feeling alone in it all
Even with loving friends and family, it can feel like no one really gets it unless they’ve been there. -
Relationship tension
The stress can sometimes show up in your relationship, even when you’re trying to be there for each other. -
Money stress
Let’s be real—IVF is expensive. That pressure adds a whole other layer. -
Grief and disappointment
Not every cycle leads to a pregnancy. And that hurts, deeply.
How to Take Care of Your Emotional Well-Being
You don’t have to power through this with a brave face. Here are a few ways to be kind to yourself during the process:
1. Let Yourself Feel All the Feelings
It’s okay if you’re not okay. Really. You’re going through something incredibly hard, and your emotions are valid. Let yourself feel them without guilt or judgment.
2. Talk Honestly with Your Partner
You’re a team, even if you’re coping differently. Make space to check in with each other—what you’re feeling, what you need, and what might help.
3. Protect Your Energy
It’s totally fine to skip the baby shower, mute the pregnancy announcements, or step away from convos that feel too heavy. You get to set the boundaries that protect your peace.
4. Reach Out for Professional Support
Talking to a therapist who gets fertility challenges can be a game-changer. Many clinics also have counselors on staff, so don’t hesitate to ask.
5. Make Time for You
Even little acts of self-care can go a long way. Go for a walk, write in a journal, take a long bath, do some yoga, read something comforting. Your mind and body deserve care, too.
6. Connect with Others Going Through IVF
Whether online or in-person, support groups can be a powerful space to feel seen and heard. Sometimes the best comfort comes from people who just get it.
That Two-Week Wait… Ugh.
Ah yes, the longest two weeks ever. Here’s how to get through it with a little more ease:
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Try not to fall into the Google rabbit hole (hard, but worth it).
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Do gentle things that bring you joy—watch a favorite show, bake, get outside.
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Wait on those at-home pregnancy tests until your clinic gives the go-ahead.
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Lean on your people. Call a friend, message a fellow IVF warrior, or check in with your clinic’s support team.